Single, Sophisticated And Sanctified

 

SINGLES, SOPHISTICATED AND SANCTIFIED

Are you aware that there is an entire chapter in the Bible that celebrates singleness? I want you to look closely at 1 Corinthians Chapter 7.

The Bible also said that there is time for everything in life, a time to be born and a time to die, a time to be single and a time to leave a single life.

There are those that have chosen to remain unmarried in life and they should never be considered outcasts or unfulfilled! Everyone makes decision that is best for him or her and the society must learn to accept people for whatever decisions they have taken.

Generally, women share the desires to get married some day. Some people also get married and really don’t know what they’re getting themselves into.

To the singles out there, this article is dedicated to you. Marriage has been so overrated in such a way that those who have reached the age of marriage, but are still single are perceived to be bad influences and characters. This attitude can cause rejection and prevent some people from getting spouses.

I speak to you today if you are single, never give anyone the chance to make you feel like a second class or unimportant because of your status as a single lady. I speak also to the married ladies reading this article, never put pressure on those that are yet to be married or tease and make disparaging comments about them. Never forget that a Miss is as good as a Mrs.

Biblically speaking, there is a purpose for being single and you should never feel bad that you are single.

Some people think that God’s preference is on those who are married. On the contrary, Jesus and Apostle Paul were not married and yet they lived fulfilled godly lives. Singleness is not a disease and the Bible is not against being single. In fact, singleness is rather scriptural and has many advantages as recorded in the gospel of Matthew 19:12.

Married people often do not know how to relate with singles and the singles often feel they are on the wrong side of the wall. Generally, people advice the newly wedded couples not to keep friendship with singles. The truth is that being single could have been more acceptable if people would see singleness as a valid lifestyle.

My goal in this article is to help tear down the walls of discrimination and malignance against the singles.  First, we must learn to accept ourselves for who we are. Some singles entertain the thoughts that if they were married, everything would be better or even perfect.

Here is a very important question: do you know how many marriages are experiencing turbulence around the world?

I want to encourage you to enjoy singleness now. There is always a rush to get into marriage, but when challenges of life begins to attack, married people become eager to separate or divorce. Some married couples even wish they could be single again. Never be in a hurry to switch sides because of the pressures of life!

Our cultures have taught us that if we could just find the right person in our life, we would be happy. Many single people are faced with this tormenting thoughts. Likewise, some married people face the same dilemma when considering leaving their spouses to find someone who will eventually make them happy.

Friends, we can only be content and fulfilled in Christ. You do not need to depend on anyone to enjoy the life that God has gifted you. Here is my spiritual advice for you now that are still living a single life: 1) learn to pursue your God given dreams. 2) Never postpone your success! In fact, pursuing your dreams and aspirations will prove to be a unique advantage to you and your future spouse. Remember that no one wants to associate or acquaint with a liability. You must go hard after that profession you are passionate about and aim high for great success. Let nothing come between you and your greatness in life!

As a single person, you can be more dedicated to the LORD and do greater things for Him. You can impact your community positively by spending your time with those that need your attention.  

Dear single Lady, do not allow anyone or your perception to deceive you into believing that singleness produces loneliness while marriage produces intimacy and whole satisfaction. The cultural belief in some societies is that if you are alone, you must be lonely and if you’re married, you are never lonely.

The fact is that you can be married and still live as a single! Ask some married couples who keep malice with each other. The truth is that, there are many single women who are not lonely even as there are some married women who are very lonely. The lesson you must hold dearly to your heart is that, there is no one person who is designed to meet your deepest needs in life except Christ.

You must see your singleness as something especially good. You are not incomplete nor incompetent because you are single. You must learn to embrace your singleness as a gift. If  the LORD leads you into a marriage, you may never again experience a time like your single days. A season of singleness has the potential to be a unique period of undivided devotion to Christ and unobstructed ministry to others. When you hold yourself in high esteem and work diligently to fulfil the purpose of God for your life, some married women would love to be like you.

The greatest temptation in being single is the assumption that marriage will meet all our needs and solve all our weaknesses or re-engineer our lives. This is contrary to what Apostle Paul wrote: he pictured marriage to be somewhat problematic when it comes to serving the LORD! He simply advised us to “Marry if we must, and cautioned us that following after Christ is not easier when we are joined in marriage.”

Although marriage may bring joy, help, and relief in some areas, it immediately increases our distractions because we are intimately responsible for our partners, their dreams, their needs and their growths. Marriage is very highly demanding!

As a single lady, you have the freedom to invest more in yourself, your career, your youth; you have more flexibility in your relationships, your ministries, and other causes that can yield significant fruit through the help of the LORD.

In your quest to enter into a marriage life, never open yourself to ungodly relationships. Ungodly relationships can disrupt the plans of God for your life and truncate your destiny. You have waited long enough to make a silly mistake that will damage your life. Let God guide you into making quality decisions rather than allow societal pressure to influence your spiritual judgment.

There is a story of a lady who out of societal pressure and impatience ended up in a wrong relationship and even though they had a cultural or traditional wedding, the marriage collapsed within a month. You never want to experience the similar marital failure in your life.  

While you are waiting to enter into a marriage relationship, do those things that are of great interest to you and give your life to pleasing the LORD. Your days of singleness is a time to get closer to God. Being single does not mean that you have to live carefree. Dress yourself appropriately and look your best. Give your time to satisfying your soul in what the LORD has planned for you. Go out and socialize with people, go to movies, and mingle with friends and fellowship with other brethren in the Church.

Singleness is not a crime and neither a disease! Let the joy of the LORD radiate in your life and never allow yourself to be intimidated in anyway. Be bold and courageous about your single life status.  

Whenever you start to experience loneliness in your singleness, turn to your heavenly companion. The LORD knows and understands what is happening in your life. Be aware that He is only preparing you for the right timing. Focus more on pleasing Him, and do not be distracted by the things that are taking place around your environment. Always know that you are special and very unique in your own way. You are the apple of God’s eye!

Instead of waiting until after your wedding day to begin fulfilling the works of the LORD for your life, or to achieve greatness in life, now is the right time to make the most out of your single life.